Change is said to be the only thing that is constant when an individual wants to get a better result on any issue in life. Married lovers must continually be creative and give room for change in order to enjoy an outstanding sex life. Now, wait a minute, do not waive this aside and think it is one of those things. No! Any creative thing a couple imagine can be achieved: all you both need to do is take the first step; move towards your dream sex life.
Let’s start from my immediate constituency – the women. As a wife, you must change what you say in bed while lovemaking is going on. For many husbands, the only essential thing they would appreciate their wives to comment on is the action at hand. There is always a time for everything and everything should be on time. This is not the time to remind him of “the clothes on the cloth line” or “junior’s outstanding school fees” or “the coming burial of your great grandma.” These comments, most times, can be misinterpreted or generate negative reactions as they may connote that those things are more important than his needs and his sexual desires, which may hurt or bruise his self-esteem. Instead, whisper lovingly to his ears and say, “I can’t wait to feel how your hands will do wonders and justice to my erotic zone this time around.”
When a wife says, “Is it in yet?” what the husband hears is, “My penis is so small she can’t even feel it.” “Am I not a man enough to satisfy her?” Instead, use your hands and put his penis deep inside your well-shaved area and whisper to his ears, “Honey, work with what you have; just be smart about it, I’m all yours.” When a wife says, “Is that how far you can go?” what her husband hears is, “You are not good enough.” Instead, say, “Job well done, now to the main meal.” While every sexual intercourse might not be an Olympic display, your husband should at least earn an approving look and encouragement.
Change what you wear when going to bed: what the eyes feed on is what the mind translates. If your husband’s eyes constantly feed on ‘that old craggy house wear,’ his mind will translate this to the ‘old grandma in the village.’ Change your outlook because men are attracted to sexy looks. Even at 60, you can still look sexy.
Change the position you always offer him. Yam can be eaten boiled, roasted or fried; as pounded yam, yam pottage, pepper-soup yam. It can also be eaten as mixed meal with beans.
Change your approach. Gone are the days when the light in the room must be put off and sex must be only in the middle of the night. Create a sex-friendly environment; do a catwalk in front of your husband. Gently seduce him as a stripper would: after all, you are stripping for your husband and not anyone else.
Hi, husband! For a change, transform the way you make love to you wife. Many times, a typical wife loves to satisfy her man with all sexual luxury, indulgence, delight and treat available, but her mind may be occupied with lots of things. The following is how to prepare your wife’s mind for incredible sex. If you do this even halfway right, her mind will prepare her body for an unforgettable night. What do I mean? Change your words and action positively to affect her mood. Her mood will affect her body. Once you get her going in the right direction, it gets easier as the night goes on. So, where do you start?
Start with romance. Romance is more than gifts and paying bills; romance is an attitude. The secret to being romantic is to bathe a woman’s mind with thoughtfulness, fun, tenderness and security, without smothering her or acting needy. All women have different personalities and expectations so, it is up to you to find out what your wife desires and what combination of romance works best for her. One woman may find it romantic for her husband to just stay at home with her and listen to all her deepest fears, while another may find a get-away-trip from the house with her husband to be the most romantic event.
Then, you have to put your woman in ‘the mood’ before you have sex. This involves setting up the right kind of environment that will enhance her pleasure.
To put her in the mood, you should focus on creating an atmosphere that emphasises acceptance of her person, preference and sensitivity. In addition, please do not skip foreplay; it is one of the most important things to learn. Love play is all about how to make love to a woman. Well-designed foreplay is the best way to transit from a conversation to having sex. Typically, foreplay involves kissing, heavy petting and sensual massages. The rule of the game is to really focus on her pleasure and start building up its intensity. Once you have brought her to the pinnacle of pleasure from foreplay, you should start to have sex. Now most husbands will just start having sex without any thought. This is a mistake!
Instead of going straight into sex, you should start to tease your wife. What you should do is go slowly and start to have sex, then stop. Keep doing this until she goes crazy and practically pulls you inside her. Now, once you have started the thrusting in and out, it is important to change pace (and positions) many wives moan from pain and not pleasure because they are kept on one position for long. Again, your focus as the husband is to concentrate on her pleasure and make sure she is really enjoying herself.
What really works is to build up speed then pull back to a slow and sensual pace. Keep doing this pattern until both of you can’t take it anymore. Moreover, if erectile dysfunction or weak erection or premature ejaculation is going to be an impediment for you, just grab 36-hour-of-freedom, the great Cialis; it works. Knowing how to make love to a woman is an important skill to have. If you can follow the process and change the methods, you will instantly become the best lover to your wife and of course, creativity makes you enjoy outstanding love life.
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