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Who is Funmi Akingbade

Short Biography

Funmi is a widely sought after speaker at local and international seminars, churches, conferences and conventions. She has a Ph.D in Sexual Therapy from The Sex Therapy Institute Atlanta, Georgia. She is an alumna of the International Institute of Transformation as well as the Advanced Oak Seed Executive Leadership Course from Beulah Heights University, Atlanta, Georgia. She is also the founder of Couples Alive Forum International (CAFI) and Couples Academy where she teaches intending couples on marital and sexual-related issues.

Preacher of the Word

Every counselling that is not rooted in the knowledge of God and biblical principles cannot stand the test of time.

Sex Therapist

Sex is a wonderful gift that couples must enjoy in marriage, unfortunately christian couples barely scratch the surface.

Programs Offered

for Couples and Singles

We are surrounded by singles who do not understand relationships. We enter into relationships and always pray this will lead to marriage. Sadly, the reverse is always the case for most people because marriage is not a “2-minute instant noodle”.

In life, we do not have marriage problems because marriage came from God rather, what we have are human management problems because human beings differ.

Funmi Akingbade has carved a niche to delve into the world of selfless sacrificial bonding in marriages and teaching singles the right path to successful Godly marriage that is full of sparks and hot romance.


Join other successful singles online who discuss directly and get intimate advice from Funmi Akingbade.


Couples forget to keep learning each other after marriage, the secrets we share here will bless your marriage.


Your company can invite Funmi to speak, train or facilitate at your retreats, conferences, seminars and corporate events.


Funmi is a minister, a blessing to the congregation of God with a calling of peace for marriages using biblical principles.

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Questions people ask us

Frequent Questions

Painful urination with itching after having sex

I always have painful burning urination sometimes with itching most times after having sex with my husband. Initially when I take some liquid medications the painful burning sensation goes immediately, but recently I noticed this painful feeling is more of a dull burning sensation with foul urine smell which linger more than usual. Although this always come immediately after I masturbate. I must confess that the reason while I masturbate even after sex with my husband is that he hardly satisfies nor ever brings me to orgasm. Occasions when I try to make him see reasons, he either shout roughly at me or get angry and irritably just have sex with me and sleep off, and instead of making an issue out of this I each time masturbate [ I love the feel of orgasm and until I experience it I am not satisfy]. And each time after masturbation I always notice I have this pain while passing out urine, I am close to 53 years now how do I deal with this.        

– Veronica

Funmi Akingbade:

The urinary tract is made up of the urethra, bladder, ureters, and kidneys. The ureters are tubes that carry urine from the kidneys to the bladder. Inflammation in any of these organs can cause pain during urination. Pain on urination especially immediately after sex is a fairly common problem the pain may be felt right where the urine passes out of the body. This could be a common sign of a urinary tract infection (UTI). UTIs can be caused by bacterial infection or inflammation of the urinary tract. Due to ascending infection during cleaning up  activates after passing out fecal products, poor penis and vagina hygiene, wearing of excessive nylon panties that does not give room for good ventilation, during sex when the man mistakenly dip unwashed  finger into the entrance of the urethra of the wife  instead of the  vaginal with the mind of fingering her. Women and girls are more likely to develop urinary tract infections than men or boys. This is because the urethra is shorter in women than it is in men, and bacteria are more likely to live in a shorter urethra. Painful urination is most often caused by an infection or inflammation somewhere in the urinary tract. For example it may be a bladder infection in an adult, swelling and irritation of the tube that carries urine out of the body (urethra)   changes in the vaginal tissue during menopause (atrophic vaginitis) irritation of the vaginal tissue caused by perfumes, or lotions , yeast or other infections of the vulva and vagina.

Because of frequent reoccurrence of the infection and due to age, you may likely experience more of the foul smell than before even after treatment because of changes in the vaginal tissue during menopause, you are either in your menopause or pre-menopausal stage. I would advise you cleverly to let your husband knows that his behaviour over the time has been hurting you on occasions when he is in a very high spirit. Besides since you realized this is unhealthy for you masturbation must stop.

Can it be cure?

I am close to 50 years and I still experience toilet disease my friend suggest I should eat a lot of yogurt and douche regularly to prevent this.

Loli E*****u

Funmi Akingbade:

Yeast infections are popularly called toilet disease in women if at the age of 50 or thereabout you still experience this it is of your best interest to see the doctor it may be an underlying reason of some other infection. Because women could still get yeast infections after menopause begins, this is because menopause causes hormonal changes, which can affect the balance of yeast or bacteria in the vagina and lead to a yeast infection.

Most doctors recommend that women should not douche at all. Douching changes the acidity level of the PH balance of the vagina, so it safer to only wash the outer folds of the vagina with warm water and mild soap.

You can reduce your chances of getting a yeast infection by wearing cotton panties, which are cooler than synthetic panties and won’t trap sweat; avoiding douches and feminine sprays, which can be irritating; changing tampons or pads often during your period and avoiding tight panties, and jeans. As to eating yogurt well some types of yogurt contain dietary acidophilus (Lactobacillus acidophilus), which is a type of “friendly” bacteria that lives in the digestive, urinary, and genital systems. But there is not enough scientific evidence to say that yogurt effectively treats or prevents vaginal yeast infections.

Eye bags after sex, am I save?

I noticed I recently develop puffiness under my eyes and I think the fluid increase each time I have sex my friends think is as a result of excessive salt intake.

Mrs Christy I*****e

 Funmi Akingbade:

 A lot of things can cause puffiness of the eye but definitely not sex, sometimes excessive intake of alcohol may be a reason or not getting enough sleep and general body stress. But it is nothing to real worry about. as a matter of fact over-the-counter hemorrhoid treatments can help gets rid of puffiness or bags under your eyes. Over-the-counter hemorrhoid treatments may help deflate under-eye bags, helping to tighten and smooth the skin. Also, green tea bags contain a natural anti-inflammatory chemical, which can reduce fluid build-up that contributes to puffiness.

Just been curious

How long does intercourse typically last for most couples, and how many calories can a couple burns having sex?  What is the smallest penis ever recorded?

Mr Niloke

Funmi Akingbade:

Hi, sexual intercourse last between three to thirteen minutes, according to study calories lost during sex it is about 300 calories per hour and the smallest penis is between five to eighths of an inch.

I know it wrong but how can I get out of it

Funmi can you help I am married my husband is doing his best to satisfy me sexually but I must confess that in spite of his effort I still keep 2 other men I go to for sex and I have tried many times to stop it but the more I try the more I am drawn to them. They are not giving me financial favour but until I have sex with either of them in a week, I am not myself. Sometimes I even cry and wash myself afterwards, but I still go back to them. They both were my EX before I married my husband. If I confess to my husband, I am not sure of his reaction. Can you explain my state?

– Faith J*****

Funmi Akingbade:

Each time a man connects with a woman sexually and releases his sperm into her, he is actually releasing his part of himself within her, and he is actually leaving a part of his (DNA) in her. Even when she cleaned herself after the act the truth is that a fragment of him remains in her inside this imprint can often create a feel of sexual addiction to such individual.

When someone decides to have multiple partners, it can sometimes send mixed emotional signals within the body and soul of that fellow. Married couples must be careful of different energies or spiritual forces polluting their bodies through casual sex here and there. Sexual intercourse is actually an internal course that unites man and woman, spirit with spirit, soul with soul and body with body this is something that a condom can’t protect you against.

There is no such thing as “casual sex” sex is an intimate activity intricately interlinks the soul of two people together. Sex creates a powerful exchange of energy between those involved. These connections, imprints and debris are left on the mind, soul and spirit of the participants for a very long time even after the deed is done. The longer and more intimate the contact with another person, the more powerful the reinforcement and the interaction of the bond will become, and all the more difficult it is for them to untangle and leave. In this case your will is not very strong to help out I strongly believe you need a higher spiritual intervention get a spiritual help.

He is upset because sex with me is not as good as his ex.

I got married to a widow recently and according to him, he and his late wife climaxed simultaneously every time they had sex. He wanted the same with us but I have never been able to climax that way. Thought he does not refer to it but I can read disappointment on his facial appearance.

Glory P***u

Funmi Akingbade:

It is possible that his ex’s well-timed orgasms were genuine; the fact that anything is possible does not make it any less unlikely. Tell him you are not his late ex-wife, that you have you own unique way of making him experience a third heaven sex, and that the earlier he stops the comparing the better for the union.

Does menstruation lead to slackness?

Dear Funmi, kindly reply this mail as quickly as possible through this address because I’m highly disturbed and confused. My wife travelled to Europe and after two years, I was able to join her in Europe. On the day of my arrival in Europe, we had sex though she was having her period (menstruation). As I entered her, I noticed that her vagina was loose with very little or no tightness at all. In fact, I went fully in with just one thrust. I was expecting vaginal tightness since I had not slept with her for more than two years and she had repeatedly swore to me that she never had any intercourse with any man. Now, please tell me what could have been responsible for the looseness of the vagina? Is it the menstrual flow of blood? Is it the foreplay? On the other hand, as I suspect, could it be that she has been having sex before my arrival in Europe?   – AKD

Funmi Akingbade:

Hi AKD, I would not be able to precisely say she has been having affairs behind you but medically, the vagina opens up a little wider whenever she is having her cycle. If she vowed her innocence to you please believe her. I would rather you stopped probing and work more on your relationship.

My bum wobbles during sex, it disturbs me a lot.

My husband loves sex and especially the ‘doggy style,’ but sex is not really my priority. When I’m having sex with him, all I think about is how awful I must look from behind. I have put on weight and my bum is covered with cellulite. Even in the dark, I can feel it jiggling with every thrust. My husband is not bothered a bit, but it really disturbs me a lot.  

–  M, Osogbo

Funmi Akingbade:

Worrying about your body can destroy your sexual confidence, libido and satisfaction. Wives need to feel attractive in order to enjoy sex. You have to accept and fancy your body. Do not be so hard on yourself. Strangely, you will never hear a man say, “Have you seen Bola’s knees?” But women take microscopes to their bodies, whereas men see us in soft focus – at least during sex. I assure you, when your husband is busy behind you, it is not your cellulite that he is looking at. On the contrary, he is in the third heaven and thanking God for the gift of sex and a good sexual partner. I am positive about this.

He is lazy in bed, what do I do?

My husband is very lazy in bed. He will do anything I want – as long as he can do it lying on his back. I make the moves and do all the hard work. Although he says it turns him on when I’m in charge, I think he just can’t be bothered. He is selfish and self-centered. If he really loved me, he would make the effort to play the lead role.

– U, Kebbi


Strangely enough, your husband might be telling the truth. If he’s a true ‘passive lover,’ playing an active role during sex may ruin his fantasy. The fact that he is at your beck and call, giving himself to you for your pleasure is not a sign of selfishness or self-centredness. To many wives, who are mostly turned on by total sexual dominance, your husband is a perfect human sex partner. So be grateful to the type of husband God gave you. Nevertheless, if you prefer a little more pro-active husband, you are going to get bored and resentful. This is about power – he pretends to be passive, but actually he is the one in control of you. If you want a different kind of sex – just ask him (if he is truly submissive he will be happy to comply). Ask him for sex over your kitchen table when you get back from work and he will do it.

Is this selfishness or what?

My husband and I have been through many things just to get a child of our own for the past 18 years. Finally, I am pregnant and due for delivery in four months’ time. The challenge we have now is that my husband is finding it sincerely difficult to stay off sex for the rest of the pregnancy periods. Although we have never stayed a week apart without sex but since the inception of the pregnancy, I had ignored him. Few days ago, I caught him helplessly masturbation please what position should we use while I am pregnant.

– Martha A***y

Funmi Akingbade:

Were you under any medical reason not to have sex during your period of pregnancy if yes, he has to bear for the few remaining months and try and stop masturbation but if no there are two suggestions you may apply? The rear entry style, where you and he lay on your sides with your buttocks against his stomach; then he can enter your vaginal gently. This is good position during pregnancy because he will not have to press on your tummy. The only problem is in this type of position his penis will not touch your clitoris. And if you want him to really enjoy himself and you also want to relish the act make sure that while his penis is moving in your vaginal, he should continually fondle your clitoris with his finger, until both of you have a happy ending. The sitting style where he sits on a chair and you sit with one of your legs on each side of his body. Here his penis does not actually enter your vaginal deeply so as not to cause any harm especially in the 8th and the 9th month.  Listen you have to show love to your husband have sex often, make it excite that is how love grows in a relationship.

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I must commend the way and manner you come up with your write-ups, they are so timely and on-point. In fact, my wife has never regretted since we got married. Please keep up the good work and may the blessings of God continue to be showered on you now and forever more, amen.

Ma, I was feeling shy to say this earlier but now I am glad to say that the treatment you gave me is working like magic.
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